Knot the right age : The myth of the perfect age difference for a happy marriage

Every human comes with a unique fingerprint, DNA pattern and a set of nuanced personality traits that differentiate them from the herd. If anyone tells you otherwise, they are not your well-wisher. But that’s a whole different conversation. Talking of DNA, a lot of things follow a pattern or formulae. Chemical equations, blockbuster movies, recipes. Marriages – not one of them. Two unique individuals come together to form a union, and hence what makes that relationship work cannot follow a set template. Logical right?


Why is it then that we follow these so-called golden rules when looking for a partner?


The business of matchmaking is a complex one. The complexity grows manifold when one doesn’t want to move the needle from hypotheticals one has built in their mind. No doubt, every individual should have non-negotiables which could be financial stability, education, life goals, how progressive an individual or their family is etc. However, while looking at profiles, weeding out people based on the fact that they don’t fall under the supposed prescribed age bracket seems redundant.

Undoubtedly, a massive age difference can have its problems if it’s a generation gap or if the two individuals are in different places in their lives concerning procreation, ambition and their careers, and hence no one would ever recommend or prescribe that. What’s problematic, though, is the belief that a person cannot be suitable for you because they are a year or two younger or older than what you thought they should be. That is simply a colossal waste of opportunity. Why not meet them and find out for yourself?

Different things make a marriage work which ultimately defines its love language, power dynamic and longevity. To make assumptions about people based on how many trips they have made around the sun doesn’t seem fair. If your hearts are in the right place and your core values match, a few years here and there won’t matter in the long run!

Have you ever heard anyone say: “How I wish my husband was just a year older & my life would have been perfect!” Or “Only if my wife was a few years younger we would have had a much better marriage “. Harping on for the ideal age difference is as superficial as the examples above. Some are old souls, and some young at heart. No one’s personality is primarily a byproduct of how long they have been on the planet, nor do a few years make a sizeable dent in their outlook.

Mark Twain said it brilliantly – Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.

MatchMe is an elite matchmaking service based in New Delhi, India. The personalized matchmaking firm provides curated matches from around the world and is considered one of the best amongst high-end matrimonial services found in the country. What sets it apart is the organic and progressive approach of Mishi and Tania, who helm this enterprise.



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